If it's not the answer they want, no matter how obvious it is, they will not hear....
I know a nice lady who is not dumb, but she sure does and says some dumb things. Unfortunately, when people behave that way, they make the rest of us look bad. No wonder so many doctors write "hypochondriac" on people's charts. They complain about feeling bad, but there's always some excuse for not implementing tried-and-true means of treatment. They want a magic pill ... and those don't exist.
I lose patience sometimes, and despite my wish that everyone might be healthy and happy, i slip into the attitude of "if they're not willing to make an effort to help themselves, they don't deserve help." It's interesting to observe the reactions of people asking for advice in certain forums: some women suck up to male attention in a way i haven't observed since the sixties; some people keep asking the same question over and over, rephrased, till they get the answer they WANT. Sorry, the least onerous and most pleasant "solution" may only be useful to people with the fewest problems. Tricky problems in older or sicker people will probably require a tougher regimen, and the REAL solution might involve some unpleasantness.
You can't try Atkins one day (Oz!) and then pass judgement on it. You can't try a supplement for three days and say it doesn't work. You can't try ketosis for a week and expect to feel like a million bucks. You can't get "temporary relief" indefinitely -- i don't care WHAT that nice doctor-actor said on television. You might have to forgo chocolate or dairy, and you may have to take desiccated liver tablets if you find eating real liver "yucky."
You have to get stubborn and stick to the course for a whole month sometimes. ARE YOU THREE YEARS OLD? "I don't LIIIIIKE it!" is not a valid excuse for a grown-up.
"They want a magic pill ... and those don't exist."
ReplyDeleteWell pills can help certain situations.... but I agree if the patient/person makes the effort to help themselves results can be very favourable. For many it's a lifestyle change and can be so worth it - don't give up at the first hurdle.
Unfortunately the tune of lalalalalalala is popular with some .......
All the best Jan
:-) i'm afraid this post was my frustration singing. but i wonder how people can fail and fail and fail again, and then be so reluctant to think MAYBE their philosophy is faulty!
Deletefine. I'll try liver tablets
ReplyDeletei thought i was going to have to go the tablet route, but learned some ways i like liver -- whew. there are simply some nutrients one can't get from other "accessible" foods.
DeleteMy naturally thin husband has a tendency to have bloating problems, it got recently much worse(like waking up at 2 or 4 am and being unable to sleep due to belly pains) because of too much fruits and salads eating close to a bed time, and he also finally realized white bread with a jam was not his friend as well. He just started to listen to me. You know - I am a maniac who thinks bread is a not appropriate food item, and my opinions could be the product of my delusions , and it is too bad already that our son caught from me the gluten avoidance. It really made his eczema disappeared, but it could be 10 different explanations for that. And I would be as naturally thin as my husband if I were speed-riding a bicycle next to him. Grrr!
ReplyDeletea lot of us are treated like the family idiot, and ignored consistently till -- amazingly enough -- our critics start feeling bad and try our suggestions out of desperation and ... START FEELING BETTER. a miracle! ;-)
DeleteI just feel that people are not willing to suffer a little for a real gain. They won't push themselves to do anything "hard". They don't understand the value of working through the difficulties to get through to the other side, when it starts to help and not be so hard. Most people hit a little bit of "low carb flu" and throw in the towel, concluding that it doesn't work for them or it makes them sick.
ReplyDeleteOne of my favorite signatures someone else uses is "Low carb is hard, being fat is hard, choose your hard.".
that's a brilliant quote! yes, it's a LOT more effort to make special foods than to continue on with "conventional wisdom" but in the end, the payoff is HUGE. I'd actually rather eat my restrictive diet and feel good than have regular treats of what my body doesn't deal with well. [sigh] i'm halfway through a two-week period in which i have significant limitation in doing this, and i'm feeling the strain....
DeleteUnfortunately, sometimes a person can be doing everything right in terms of diet, supplements, sleep etc. and STILL be feeling like shit. Then what? Magic pills still bad?
ReplyDeletemy point, which i perhaps didn't express well, is that there ARE no magic pills. there are things which can make you feel better, like opiates, but they don't actually FIX the problem. amphetamines used to help people lose weight, but they had a down-side, too. ditto for fen-phen. you, Wooo and Maria constantly say that psych drugs, for example, generally don't work well and have lots of horrible, unintended side-effects that are usually not discussed by pharma companies and doctors....
DeleteMay be the next thing to try if it is really necessary would be artificially matching hormones to the 25 years young level. Unfortunately it would require super cooperative doctor, and it is still something to buy at a pharmacy.
Delete[shrug] supplementing gets complicated even more, when you think of all the things one can't get in various parts of the world.... Lifextension and Minijumb can't get some things in Australia that we can here, and Sid had similar problems in Ireland.
Deletecan't win!!! i'd better just give up and go pour myself a drink.