One of my facebook friends whom i've never actually met is the caretaker of a wife with Alzheimer's dementia. I can see that being part of an online family gives him an opportunity to express his sense of isolation, frustration, sorrow, shame (because he's using food stamps and hates it) ... and many more feelings than i can describe. He has pointed out that well-meaning people have written to him suggesting all sorts of theoretically-helpful treatments (like coconut oil), and that such suggestions can be very provoking (because a lot of people won't lay off after a "thanks but no thanks" message).
But how can one respond appropriately, besides saying "i'm so sorry, and wish you the best"?
Dementia is a sad and horrible malady. But it's a modern-world problem, and the direct result of the bad dietary advice of the last 30 years. Dr. Wm. Wong wrote once that when he was in medical school they told him, "here's a disease you need to know about, but chances are you'll never see a case because it's so rare." RARE.... Today we're seeing an epidemic of it, and not in the extremely old as it used to be.
Pancreatic cancers are rife, too! One of my dearest friends died of it in '13, and another friend (whom i'll coincidentally be visiting tomorrow) is fighting it as we speak. Yet another is dealing with a rare form of liver cancer. What should we SAY?
"I'm so sorry, and wish you the best!"
I HAVE to believe in karma, and that McGovern and Keys will roast in hell for all eternity for their ego-driven campaigns to get us all to eat the way they wanted us to. :-P How many people suffered and died needlessly because of them, and because of the USDA's drive to make lots of money for their buddies in Big Ag?
My friend who died in '13 KNEW he should cut back on the sugar because of the eye problems he was experiencing. I restrained myself, but about three times in total i mentioned that some of his issues were glucose-related, and once he replied (to my very last comment), "i have to eat what i like to eat."
Is that what's most important to YOU? Is "eating what you like" more important than debilitating pain and an early death? Leaving your loved ones bereft? Never seeing your grandchildren grow up? Is it more important to have that bread/pasta/doughnut/candy bar than to spend another 20 years with your nearest and dearest, doing things you love to do?
What should i say to my friend tomorrow, besides expressing my affection and admiration, and regret that he's going through all this turmoil and discomfort? Last weekend at our living-history event, some of his precious possessions were sold to help raise money to deal with his medical bills. His horses and tack, his guitars, his reenacting equipment, his CLOTHING....
When i'm thinking to myself how avoidable their suffering has been, i'll be restraining my desire to tell my friends that a change in their dietary habits COULD help them fight their modern illnesses. ...It's hard.