Thursday, January 23, 2014

stress and busy-ness

I've been on the busy side, since returning from N'Orleans.  There's ALWAYS a good deal of house-upkeep to do when you've got this much space in a building that's 118 years old, for one thing ... and a long-haired dog that sheds adds his own special contribution.  Then there's the day-to-day kitchen activities which never end.  Laundry.  Shopping.  Mending.  Creativity.  Study and research.  Social life.  Reading, watching, relaxation, recreation.  None of this is intrinsically stressful to me.

It's inopportune interruption, unpleasant surprises, and people who feel the need to act like inconsiderate, selfish jerks which can make a burden of certain activities and interactions.  We may or may not have to put up with some of this stuff....

I completely unfriended someone on facebook yesterday.  Most of the time, if a real-life acquaintance is making him/herself obnoxious, I just block the posts I don't want to see; this way, I can still wish them happy birthday but otherwise not have to deal with their dumb ideas and abrasive communications.  But this woman had rejection coming!  And since I DON'T know her "IRL" it was easier to just cut her loose.  Bye-bye ... have a good life ... good riddance!

Instant lower stress.  People like that, you never know when they're going to turn from supportive to viciously aggressive.  A pleasantry rubs them the wrong way, and they suddenly show claws and teeth.  I don't need that shit.

It's a puzzle to me why intrinsically good people can get really nasty about defending their "compassionate viewpoints."  Not even against people fighting against them -- just the existence of a contrary viewpoint brings out the rattlesnake in them.  A perfect example is how those compassionate vegetarians viciously assaulted Lierre Keith.  True, she pointed out that their non-animal-food diet is responsible for the killing of a lot of little animals anyway, and that their plant-based diet is dangerously deficient in nutrition, but REALLY....

Are these people who build a kind-and-gentle philosophy trying to create a personal world in which every child gets a trophy and nobody is ever at fault, but bad things happen to good people so every bad thing that happens to them PROVES they're a good person; where the fact that things in the real world don't result the same way as their brand of logic says it SHOULD, so the actions of the real world are faulty in some way, but their logic is impeccable....  Is C so emotionally fragile that she feels she'll crumble if her phantasy-world isn't upheld by the beliefs of everyone with whom she comes in contact?  I DO know people who seem to be convinced that their philosophy is the only possible Truth, but they tend to be hyperreligious yoyos, not ostensibly intelligent people.  ...Yeah, I need Sidereal or Minijumb to explain the mindset to me!

Got "friends" who only bring you down, who insult you indirectly and cause you to tense up at the thought of interacting with them?  There IS a way to feel instant relief (and I DO feel it)....

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  1. I agree sometimes just cut them loose! It brings an instant relief...

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    1. and yet, I feel a little sad doing it....

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  2. Instant lower stress ...... magic.

    Mind you all the things included in your first paragraph .... there are those who may find that stressful - when it's all in a good days work so to speak.

    Nice to have you back from your travels.

    All the best Jan

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    1. yes, under adverse circumstances, some of those things DO stress me ... but lately I've been coping better. when one's energy is better and there aren't time-constraints EVERYTHING about life is better.. :-) thanks, Jan!

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  3. People sometimes say things online that they'd never say in person. Someone ought to make an app that shows a shocked or angry expression when the user is flaming someone.

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    1. yes, they certainly do! what finally fed me up was how she can go from being a "caring secular humanist" to ATTACK DOG faster than my Mazda can go from 0 to 60. if she were as evolved a person as she likes to think herself, this wouldn't happen. she obviously has a raft of unreconciled issues that cause her to lash out. (and her health could be a lot better, which tends to make our fuses a little short.)

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  4. New Year's resolution. I had been retreating from toxic people in my life, but hey, wait a minute. Why am I the one to leave? This year, I am back. If someone is mean to me, I sit right down next to them and like them back double. Talk talk talk away. This has an interesting effect. Nasty people are driven crazy by this, and people who are considering nastiness are having second thoughts about their behavior. They are being pre-emptively nice to me. Unfortunately I don't think this would work on the internet.

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    1. I got a LOL out of this! :-D I don't always have the energy to spare, but yeah -- anyone who tells one the "ugly truth" (according to themselves) definitely deserves to hear the flipside of that record!

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